What if your best employee is hiding… from her own potential?
I often hear this in consulting sessions with managers…
A high-stakes leadership meeting is coming up—and she wants her employee in the room. To shine. To be seen.
But the employee?
She’s hesitant.
“It feels too big for me,” she says.
Sure, she knows she’s appreciated.
Her reports have reached the CEO.
She delivers. She’s respected.
But this is different—more visible. More vulnerable. More risky.
The manager sees it clearly:
An opportunity not to miss.
A key role is opening up.
And this employee? She’s the perfect fit.
🤔But here comes the dilemma for all leaders:
How much should I push someone forward—when they don’t feel ready?
It is a delicate balance that can either foster or hinder an employee’s growth.
The decision to step up must be mutual.
When someone says “I’m not ready,” don’t back away—
Step in with:
✨Space: create a space for open conversation
✨Listen: their doubts are information to help them grow
✨Encourage by facts: Show them what they’ve already achieved.
✨Stories: Share a time you weren’t ready—but did it anyway.
✨Steps: Design a gradual path that builds their confidence
Support doesn’t mean pushing—it means walking beside.
Your belief in your employee can be the bridge between their doubt and their future.
💡 Try this question in your next 1:1:
“What would help you feel just a little more ready?”
